{"id":90852,"date":"2024-11-05T01:00:51","date_gmt":"2024-11-05T06:00:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=90852"},"modified":"2024-11-04T10:47:44","modified_gmt":"2024-11-04T15:47:44","slug":"qotd-if-you-want-me-to-treat-you-nicely-play-nice-with-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2024\/11\/05\/qotd-if-you-want-me-to-treat-you-nicely-play-nice-with-others\/","title":{"rendered":"QotD: “If you want me to treat you nicely, play nice with others”"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>A message to trans people:<\/p>\n

I’m a biological essentialist about sex — your sex is a given of your chromosomes and organs, and I will never actually believe that you can invert it by choice.<\/p>\n

I am, however, conditionally willing not to challenge your weird Gnostic beliefs on this point, and to treat you as the sex you “identify” as anyway. Here are the conditions:<\/p>\n

1. You must be good at passing. If you can’t present a convincing pretense, it’s neither in my interest nor anyone else’s to help you prop up an unconvincing one.<\/p>\n

2. You must be harmless. Most obviously, you must not use your “identification” to prey on others, whether directly by violence or by using the physical advantage of your sex to overwhelm them in sports, or in any other way. And if you’re told you’re unwelcome in a bathroom or changing room, it’s on you to not impose.<\/p>\n

3. You must be modest. Your desire to role-play as M or F does not entitle you to violate prevailing norms about where, and to whom, you expose your genitals. If you aren’t polite enough to refrain from this, I won’t be even a bit polite to you.<\/p>\n

4. Children are off-limits. The moment you engage in behavior that seems intended to confuse or indoctrinate them, you enter the category of “predator” and stay there. My response to sexual predation on children only begins with rejection and rudeness.<\/p>\n

5. If you try to use the force of law to gain what equal and voluntary negotiation with individuals won’t give you, you also enter the category of “predator” and stay there.<\/p>\n

The meta-rule is: the more your behavior imposes costs on others, the less polite and accepting I will be. If you want me to treat you nicely, play nice with others.<\/p>\n

Eric S. Raymond, Twitter<\/em><\/a>, 2024-07-28.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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