{"id":88891,"date":"2025-03-26T01:00:29","date_gmt":"2025-03-26T05:00:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=88891"},"modified":"2025-03-25T09:23:56","modified_gmt":"2025-03-25T13:23:56","slug":"qotd-therapy-that-works-for-women-doesnt-necessarily-work-for-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2025\/03\/26\/qotd-therapy-that-works-for-women-doesnt-necessarily-work-for-men\/","title":{"rendered":"QotD: Therapy that works for women doesn&#8217;t necessarily work for men"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p><a href=\"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/QotD-thumbnail-400x400.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" style=\"float:right; padding: 0px 0px 10px 25px\" src=\"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/QotD-thumbnail-400x400.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"400\" height=\"400\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-48672\" srcset=\"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/QotD-thumbnail-400x400.png 400w, https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/QotD-thumbnail-400x400-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/QotD-thumbnail-400x400-50x50.png 50w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a>The most important thing I&#8217;ve learned about human psychology in the last five years: therapy for depression in men is usually mistargeted and ineffective because therapists think men are like women, who become depressed because they don&#8217;t feel loved. <\/p>\n<p>This is completely wrong. Men cope with feeling unloved relatively easily. What destroys them is feeling powerless.<\/p>\n<p>So yeah. Swing a sword. Restore a steam engine. Climb a rock. Do something &mdash; <em>anything<\/em> &mdash; that asserts your competence and control over your environment. <\/p>\n<p>For men, this is much better therapy than talking about feelings.<\/p>\n<p>ESR, <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/esrtweet\/status\/1787411840802115998\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><em>Twitter<\/em><\/a>, 2024-05-06.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The most important thing I&#8217;ve learned about human psychology in the last five years: therapy for depression in men is usually mistargeted and ineffective because therapists think men are like women, who become depressed because they don&#8217;t feel loved. This is completely wrong. Men cope with feeling unloved relatively easily. What destroys them is feeling [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":35193,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[66,41],"tags":[141,1235,906],"class_list":["post-88891","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-health-science","category-quotations","tag-depression","tag-esr","tag-mentalhealth"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/favicon.png","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p2hpV6-n7J","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/88891","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=88891"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/88891\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":94836,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/88891\/revisions\/94836"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/35193"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=88891"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=88891"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=88891"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}