{"id":71359,"date":"2022-04-24T01:00:19","date_gmt":"2022-04-24T05:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=71359"},"modified":"2022-04-23T09:40:40","modified_gmt":"2022-04-23T13:40:40","slug":"qotd-love-in-an-age-of-instagram","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2022\/04\/24\/qotd-love-in-an-age-of-instagram\/","title":{"rendered":"QotD: Love in an age of Instagram"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p><a href=\"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/QotD-thumbnail-400x400.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" style=\"float:left; padding: 0px 15px 10px 0px\" src=\"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/QotD-thumbnail-400x400.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"400\" height=\"400\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-48672\" srcset=\"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/QotD-thumbnail-400x400.png 400w, https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/QotD-thumbnail-400x400-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/QotD-thumbnail-400x400-50x50.png 50w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<ul>\n<p><em>I really like the girl I&#8217;m dating, except for one thing. On every date, she asks me to take photos of her for Instagram. Afterward, she consults me repeatedly on which will &#8220;get the most likes.&#8221; I&#8217;m starting to get really annoyed, and I find it cuts into my enjoyment of our time together. She even did this on my birthday! &mdash; Irritated<\/em><\/p>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Psychologist Erich Fromm wrote, &#8220;Mature love says: &#8216;I need you because I love you.'&#8221; He died in 1980, 30-some years before Instagram-infused love: &#8220;I need you, love, because my telescoping selfie stick won&#8217;t fit in my cute purse.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>This girl&#8217;s far from alone in turning every occasion short of stints on the toilet into a photo op. Social media (and Instagram especially) transformed fishing for compliments into a business model. #admirationvampires<\/p>\n<p>Some young women &mdash; especially 20-somethings with a still-murky sense of identity &mdash; might feel they don&#8217;t exist in any meaningful way if they don&#8217;t post pix and videos of themselves to score likes and gain followers. #KeepingUpWithTheInstadashians<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s also the lure of easy money for those who can rack up an audience: potentially making big &#8220;influencer&#8221; bucks just by showing up to events in some pop-up shop&#8217;s dress and striking a bunch of poses they copied off Beyonce.<\/p>\n<p>Amy Alkon, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.advicegoddess.com\/ag-column-archives\/2021\/11\/the-camera-sutr.html\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">&#8220;The Camera Sutra&#8221;, <em>Advice Goddess<\/em><\/a>, 2021-12-25.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I really like the girl I&#8217;m dating, except for one thing. On every date, she asks me to take photos of her for Instagram. Afterward, she consults me repeatedly on which will &#8220;get the most likes.&#8221; I&#8217;m starting to get really annoyed, and I find it cuts into my enjoyment of our time together. 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