{"id":48225,"date":"2019-05-06T03:00:19","date_gmt":"2019-05-06T07:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=48225"},"modified":"2019-05-05T09:57:42","modified_gmt":"2019-05-05T13:57:42","slug":"casual-sex-isnt-actually-all-that-casual-to-most-women","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2019\/05\/06\/casual-sex-isnt-actually-all-that-casual-to-most-women\/","title":{"rendered":"“Casual sex” isn’t actually all that casual to most women"},"content":{"rendered":"

Suzanne Venker<\/a> makes the case that the innate physiological and psychological differences between men and women accounting for most women’s much lower comfort level with “no-strings-attached” sexual encounters:<\/p>\n

The differences between women and men are vast, and in no domain is this more true than sex. Our bodies alone prove this in spades! If one body carries life and the other doesn’t, this clearly makes the sexes unequal. Newsflash: The birth control pill doesn’t change a woman’s inherent nature \u2014 it merely gives the illusion she’s just like a man.<\/p>\n

She’s not. A woman\u2019s need to bond with a man, to feel safe and loved and committed to, is crucial for her to feel secure enough to let down her guard sexually<\/a>. That’s why she feels uneasy about one-night stands. Her body won’t cooperate.<\/p>\n

It’s also why men, not women, are the ones who gain the most from casual sex. (To be clear: I’m not arguing that it’s “OK” or even good for men to sleep around; I’m simply pointing out why, from a physical standpoint, they aren’t angst-ridden when they do.)<\/p>\n

Women just aren’t designed for one-night stands. What do we think all those films and television programs are about where the man and the woman have sex and he doesn\u2019t call her the next day, so she thinks he\u2019s a jerk? If women were \u201cjust like men,\u201d this would never be a theme in the first place.<\/p>\n

When it comes to uncommitted sex, women are playing a game they can\u2019t win. Feeling \u201cused,\u201d or like a \u201cbooty call,\u201d is the most common experience of women who engage in casual sex, or \u201chookups,\u201d whether they\u2019re teenagers or grown women. That just isn\u2019t the case for most men.<\/p>\n

Every American over the age of 40 knows this to be true, and adults in schools and at home are failing our youth by not passing this wisdom along \u2014 particularly when young people are bombarded with the lie that casual sex is empowering.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Suzanne Venker makes the case that the innate physiological and psychological differences between men and women accounting for most women’s much lower comfort level with “no-strings-attached” sexual encounters: The differences between women and men are vast, and in no domain is this more true than sex. Our bodies alone prove this in spades! If one […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":35193,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[66,10,13],"tags":[713,262,139,255,43],"class_list":["post-48225","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-health-science","category-liberty","category-usa","tag-biology","tag-culture","tag-psychology","tag-sexuality","tag-women"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/favicon.png","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p2hpV6-cxP","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48225","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=48225"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48225\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":48226,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48225\/revisions\/48226"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/35193"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=48225"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=48225"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=48225"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}