{"id":48058,"date":"2019-04-27T03:00:42","date_gmt":"2019-04-27T07:00:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=48058"},"modified":"2019-04-26T10:21:54","modified_gmt":"2019-04-26T14:21:54","slug":"dating-is-dead","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2019\/04\/27\/dating-is-dead\/","title":{"rendered":"Dating is dead"},"content":{"rendered":"

Suzanne Venker<\/a> discusses the state of dating among the love-lorn Millennials and new-to-relationships members of Generation Z:<\/p>\n

Remember when it [dating] was viewed as a step toward a committed relationship or even marriage?<\/p>\n

Tell that to anyone under 40, and they\u2019ll look at you like you have three heads.<\/p>\n

[…]<\/p>\n

According to … the Wall Street Journal<\/em><\/a>, Generation Z, most of whom are currently college-age, is “uniquely bad at dating.” The men and women of this generation are less independent, less resilient and more sheltered than previous generations, it says \u2014 and these factors make this generation “romantically challenged.”<\/p>\n

That may very well be true, but it’s hardly the end of the conversation.<\/p>\n

There are numerous factors at play that explain why men and women under 40 can’t sustain love, or why they can’t manage to get married and build a life together. In my next few posts, I will outline those reasons and offer solutions for how parents and educators can help young people correct what I personally consider to be the most pressing issue of our time.<\/p>\n

The first and most obvious is that Generation Z, as well as the Millennials who preceded them, have been given zero<\/em> guidance and encouragement when it comes to building a relationship with the opposite sex. Women in particular have been explicitly and repeatedly told to do just the opposite: postpone marriage as long as possible, while enjoying the supposed benefits of commitment-free sex, and make a career the center of their lives.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Given this cultural script, why wouldn’t<\/em> we expect dating to die and relationships to fail? We specifically moved women away from this goal. It’s not their<\/em> fault \u2014 it’s the fault of the adults who failed them.<\/p>\n

If a woman’s professional life is considered the #1 most important thing<\/em>, there’s no reason to date in the traditional sense of the word. The purpose of dating is to determine whether or not the other person is a match, potentially for life. Why go through all the rigamarole if marriage isn’t on your radar? Might as well hookup until you’re ready to settle down.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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