{"id":42642,"date":"2018-03-12T06:00:23","date_gmt":"2018-03-12T10:00:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=42642"},"modified":"2021-10-03T10:12:57","modified_gmt":"2021-10-03T14:12:57","slug":"sarah-hoyt-on-womens-advantages-and-disadvantages","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2018\/03\/12\/sarah-hoyt-on-womens-advantages-and-disadvantages\/","title":{"rendered":"Sarah Hoyt on women’s advantages and disadvantages"},"content":{"rendered":"

A recent post at According to Hoyt<\/em><\/a>:<\/p>\n

I did not ask to be born a woman. At least presumably I didn\u2019t ask. If we look too closely at this, we get into all sorts of things about pre-existing souls, reincarnation and what not. Neither fit into my system of belief, but neither am I absolutely sure of what happens after you die, or before you\u2019re born, because how can I be? Eventually I\u2019ll find the one out, the other also if my system is wrong. And in either case it matters very little to here and now.<\/p>\n

However, I do know being born a woman wasn\u2019t some sort of achievement, like I just won a race and deserve a medal. I am a woman, and that\u2019s fine. My little tomboy self didn\u2019t always think it was a good idea, this being a woman thing, but I\u2019ve come to enjoy it. I can still slay dragons and drink but I can also wear bitching shoes while doing it, and no one looks at me sideways.<\/p>\n

Or to put things another way: I have my limitations, my sticking points, and things I do that make people look at me oddly. The limitations and sticking points have bloody nothing to do with being female. Even in Portugal, where I was presumed to be dumber than most males (it\u2019s a cultural thing) I never found that to be an impairment, because I wasn\u2019t and I\u2019d eventually show it. Also, because I\u2019m that kind of person, I enjoyed the look of shock on their faces when I showed it. The sticking points: I\u2019ve gone to pot, physically for various reasons, mostly having to do with hypothyroidism and asthma, and true, I was never as strong as most males. So in a test of strength, I\u2019d have failed. But I was quite strong enough when I was young to carry furniture as heavy as the movers did, and for as long (I never had to tell my husband \u201cI can\u2019t lift this\u201d until my fifties. And in a fight I just had to be twice as low-minded and nasty. Because a fight isn\u2019t won on a straight up context of strength.<\/p>\n

I never found being a woman an impairment. I did take shameless advantage of it a time or twenty. It\u2019s easier to get out of a ticket, if you act the ditsy woman. It\u2019s easier to diffuse a situation that for a male would end in a fight by smiling and talking in a \u201clittle girl lost\u201d voice.<\/p>\n

Do I feel bad about using the advantage that the evolutionary triggers against hurting females gives me? Oh, please. You are born who you are born. You use ALL your weapons. All of them. Why not? There are disadvantages that come with your advantages. There are disadvantages for everyone. You use all your advantages. They\u2019re yours. Why wouldn\u2019t you use them?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

A recent post at According to Hoyt: I did not ask to be born a woman. At least presumably I didn\u2019t ask. If we look too closely at this, we get into all sorts of things about pre-existing souls, reincarnation and what not. Neither fit into my system of belief, but neither am I absolutely […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":35193,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[62,73],"tags":[262,557,1444,43],"class_list":["post-42642","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-europe","category-randomness","tag-culture","tag-portugal","tag-sarahhoyt","tag-women"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/favicon.png","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p2hpV6-b5M","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42642","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=42642"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42642\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":42643,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42642\/revisions\/42643"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/35193"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=42642"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=42642"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=42642"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}