{"id":42131,"date":"2018-02-06T05:00:12","date_gmt":"2018-02-06T10:00:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=42131"},"modified":"2018-02-05T13:01:57","modified_gmt":"2018-02-05T18:01:57","slug":"katie-roiphe-on-the-new-whisper-network","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2018\/02\/06\/katie-roiphe-on-the-new-whisper-network\/","title":{"rendered":"Katie Roiphe on the new whisper network"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>She&#8217;s already taken a lot of heat from other women over <a href=\"https:\/\/harpers.org\/archive\/2018\/02\/the-other-whisper-network\/\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">this essay<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>For years, women confined their complaints about sexual harassment to whisper networks for fear of reprisal from men. This is an ugly truth about our recent past that we are just now beginning to grapple with. But amid this welcome reckoning, it seems that many women still fear varieties of retribution (Twitter rage, damage to their reputations, professional repercussions, and vitriol from friends) for speaking out \u2014 this time, from other women. They are, in other words, inadvertently creating a new whisper network. Can this possibly be a good thing?<\/p>\n<p>Most of the new whisperers feel as I do, exhilarated by the moment, by the long-overdue possibility of holding corrupt and bullying men such as Harvey Weinstein, Charlie Rose, and Matt Lauer to account for their actions. They strongly share some of its broader goals: making it possible for women to work unbothered and unharassed even outside the bubble of Hollywood and the media, breaking down the structures that have historically protected powerful men. Yet they are also slightly uneasy at the weird energy behind this movement, a weird energy it is sometimes hard to pin down.<\/p>\n<p>Here are some things these professional women said to me on the condition that their names be withheld:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<p><em>I think \u201cbelieve all women\u201d is silly. Women are unreliable narrators also. I understand how hard it is to come forward, but I just don\u2019t buy it. It\u2019s a sentimental view of women &#8230; I think there is more regretted consent than anyone is willing to say out loud.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>If someone had sent me the Media Men list ten years ago, when I was twenty-five, I would have called a harmlessly enamored guy a stalker and a sloppy drunken encounter sexual assault. I\u2019d hate myself now for wrecking two lives.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>One thing people don\u2019t say is that power is an aphrodisiac &#8230; To pretend otherwise is dishonest.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>What seems truly dangerous to me is the complete disregard the movement shows for a sacred principle of the American criminal justice system: the presumption of innocence. I come from Mexico, whose judicial system relied, until 2016, on the presumption of guilt, which translated into people spending decades, sometimes lifetimes, in jail before even seeing a judge.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>I have never felt sexually harassed. I said this to someone the other day, and she said, \u201cI am sure you are wrong.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Al Franken asked for an investigation and he should have been allowed to have it; the facts are still ambiguous, the sources were sketchy.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Why didn\u2019t I get hit on? What\u2019s wrong with me? #WhyNotMeToo<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>I think #MeToo is a potentially valuable tool that is degraded when women appropriate it to encompass things like \u201ccreepy DMs\u201d or \u201cweird lunch \u2018dates.\u2019\u201d And I do not think touching a woman\u2019s back justifies a front page in the New York Times and the total annihilation of someone\u2019s career.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/ul>\n<p>I have a long history with this feeling of not being able to speak. In the early Nineties, death threats were phoned into Shakespeare and Company, an Upper West Side bookstore where I was scheduled to give a reading from my book <em>The Morning After<\/em>. That night, in front of a jittery crowd and a sprinkling of police, I read a passage comparing the language in the date-rape pamphlets given out on college campuses to Victorian guides to conduct for young ladies. When I read at universities, students who considered themselves feminists shouted me down. It was an early lesson in the chilling effect of feminist orthodoxy.<\/p>\n<p>But social media has enabled a more elaborate intolerance of feminist dissenters, as I just personally experienced. Twitter, especially, has energized the angry extremes of feminism in the same way it has energized Trump and his supporters: the loudest, angriest, most simplifying voices are elevated and rendered normal or mainstream.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>She&#8217;s already taken a lot of heat from other women over this essay: For years, women confined their complaints about sexual harassment to whisper networks for fear of reprisal from men. This is an ugly truth about our recent past that we are just now beginning to grapple with. 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