{"id":41876,"date":"2018-01-21T03:00:05","date_gmt":"2018-01-21T08:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=41876"},"modified":"2018-09-18T10:31:50","modified_gmt":"2018-09-18T14:31:50","slug":"esr-responds-to-megan-mcardles-column-on-disempowered-women","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2018\/01\/21\/esr-responds-to-megan-mcardles-column-on-disempowered-women\/","title":{"rendered":"ESR responds to Megan McArdle’s column on disempowered women"},"content":{"rendered":"

A couple of days ago, I linked to one of Megan McArdle’s columns<\/a> that discussed the oddity that modern day women often feel themselves to have even less agency in their own lives than their mothers or grandmothers did. ESR left a comment at Bloomberg View<\/em> and then expanded on that comment on his own blog<\/a>:<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not complicated, Megan. You actually got most of it already, but I don\u2019t think you quite grasp how comprehensive the trap is yet. Younger women feel powerless because they live in a dating environment where sexual license has gone from an option to a minimum bid.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not speaking as a prude or moralist here, but as a\u2026well, the technical term is \u2018praxeologist\u2019 but few people know it so I\u2019ll settle for \u201cmicro-economist\u201d. The leading edge of the sexual revolution give women options they didn\u2019t have before; its completion has taken away many of the choices they used to have by trapping them in a sexual-competition race for the bottom.<\/p>\n

\u201cGrace\u201d behaved as she did because she doesn\u2019t have a realistic option to hold out for romance before sex; women who do that put themselves at high risk of not getting second dates, there are too many others willing to play by the new rules. So she has to do sex instead and hope lightning strikes.<\/p>\n

Couple this with the fact that as women get on average more educated there are fewer hypergamically-eligible males at every SES, and you have the jaws of a vicious vise. It\u2019s especially hard on high-status women and low-status men. The main beneficiaries are high-status men, who often behave like entitled assholes because the new rules tilt the playing field in their favor even more than the old ones did.<\/p>\n

(That last is not aimed at Ansari, who seems to me to have behaved quite like a gentleman, acceding to every request \u201cGrace\u201d actually made. It\u2019s not his fault he couldn\u2019t read her mind.)<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t have a fix for this problem. As you imply, if women were able to coordinate a retreat to withholding early sex they would regain some of their lost bargaining power, but I don\u2019t see any realistic possibility of this today. The problem is that the refuseniks from such an agreement trying to form, and the defectors after it formed, would be rewarded with more sex with high-status men<\/em>, which is exactly what every player on the female side is instinctively wired to want.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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