{"id":36832,"date":"2017-01-03T03:00:17","date_gmt":"2017-01-03T08:00:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=36832"},"modified":"2017-01-02T22:39:13","modified_gmt":"2017-01-03T03:39:13","slug":"can-this-marriage-be-saved","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2017\/01\/03\/can-this-marriage-be-saved\/","title":{"rendered":"Can this marriage be saved?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Megan McArdle<\/a> reflects on what makes a marriage successful … politically:<\/p>\n

While traveling a few months back, I ended up chatting with a divorce attorney, who observed that what we\u2019re seeing in America right now bears a startling resemblance to what he sees happen with many of his clients. They\u2019ve lost sight of what they ever liked about each other; in fact, they\u2019ve even lost sight of their own self-interest. All they can see is their grievances, from annoying habits to serious wrongs. The other party, of course, generally has their own set of grievances. There is a sort of geometric progression of outrage, where whatever you do to the other side is justified by whatever they did last. They, of course, offer similar justifications for their own behavior.<\/p>\n

By the time the parties get to this state, the object is not even necessarily to come out of the divorce with the most money and stuff; it\u2019s to ensure that your former spouse comes out with as little as possible. People will fight viciously to get a knickknack neither of them particularly likes, force asset sales at a bad loss, and otherwise behave as if the victor is not the person who goes on to live a productive and happy life, but the one who makes it impossible for the ex to do so.<\/p>\n

However damaging these battles are, at least they eventually end. Unfortunately, there is no divorce court for nations, and our last trial separation ended in the deaths of about 2 percent of the population. However much you have come to despise the other party, they\u2019re still going to be there: tracking dirt into the halls of Congress, demanding an equal say in the direction of the ship of state. It doesn\u2019t matter if you hate their ideas, their habits, and everything else about them; they\u2019re not going anywhere. So you two had better figure out how to live together.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

And you can easily imagine partisans of both sides angrily decrying “But they<\/em> started it!”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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