{"id":32163,"date":"2017-04-21T01:00:21","date_gmt":"2017-04-21T05:00:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=32163"},"modified":"2019-05-19T11:50:24","modified_gmt":"2019-05-19T15:50:24","slug":"qotd-male-sexuality","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2017\/04\/21\/qotd-male-sexuality\/","title":{"rendered":"QotD: Male sexuality"},"content":{"rendered":"

What I\u2019m saying is that male sexuality is extremely complicated, and the formation of male identity is very tentative and sensitive \u2013 but feminist rhetoric doesn\u2019t allow for it. This is why women are having so much trouble dealing with men in the feminist era. They don\u2019t understand men, and they demonize men. They accord to men far more power than men actually have in sex. Women control the sexual world in ways that most feminists simply don\u2019t understand.<\/p>\n

My explanation is that second-wave feminism dispensed with motherhood. The ideal woman was the career woman \u2013 and I do support that. To me, the mission of feminism is to remove all barriers to women\u2019s advancement in the social and political realm \u2013 to give women equal opportunities with men. However, what I kept saying in Sexual Personae<\/em> is that equality in the workplace is not going to solve the problems between men and women which are occurring in the private, emotional realm, where every man is subordinate to women, because he emerged as a tiny helpless thing from a woman\u2019s body. Professional women today don\u2019t want to think about this or deal with it.<\/p>\n

The erasure of motherhood from feminist rhetoric has led us to this current politicization of sex talk, which doesn\u2019t allow women to recognize their immense power vis-\u00e0-vis<\/em> men. When motherhood was more at the center of culture, you had mothers who understood the fragility of boys and the boy\u2019s need for nurturance and for confidence to overcome his weaknesses. The old-style country women \u2013 the Italian matriarchs and Jewish mothers \u2013 they all understood the fragility of men. The mothers ruled their own world and didn\u2019t take men that seriously. They understood how to nurture men and encourage them to be strong \u2013 whereas current feminism simply doesn\u2019t perceive the power of women vis-a-vis<\/em> men. But when you talk like this with most men, it really resonates with them, and they say \u201cYes, yes! That\u2019s it!\u201d<\/p>\n

Currently, feminists lack sympathy and compassion for men and for the difficulties that men face in the formation of their identities. I\u2019m not talking in terms of the men\u2019s rights movement, which got infected by p.c. The heterosexual professional woman, emerging with her shiny Ivy League degree, wants to communicate with her husband exactly the way she communicates with her friends \u2013 as in Sex and the City<\/em>. That show really caught the animated way that women actually talk with each other. But that\u2019s not a style that straight men can do! Gay men can do it, sure \u2013 but not straight men! Guess what \u2013 women are different than men! When will feminism wake up to this basic reality? Women relate differently to each other than they do to men. And straight men do not have the same communication skills or values as women \u2013 their brains are different!<\/p>\n

Camille Paglia, interviewed by David Daley in “Camille Paglia: How Bill Clinton is like Bill Cosby”, Salon<\/em><\/a>, 2015-07-28.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

What I\u2019m saying is that male sexuality is extremely complicated, and the formation of male identity is very tentative and sensitive \u2013 but feminist rhetoric doesn\u2019t allow for it. This is why women are having so much trouble dealing with men in the feminist era. They don\u2019t understand men, and they demonize men. They accord […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":35193,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[28,53,41,13],"tags":[1288,987,139,255],"class_list":["post-32163","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-media","category-politics","category-quotations","category-usa","tag-camillepaglia","tag-feminism","tag-psychology","tag-sexuality"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/favicon.png","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p2hpV6-8mL","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32163","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=32163"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32163\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":32164,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32163\/revisions\/32164"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/35193"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=32163"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=32163"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=32163"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}