{"id":30239,"date":"2015-02-18T02:00:44","date_gmt":"2015-02-18T07:00:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=30239"},"modified":"2015-02-14T12:08:26","modified_gmt":"2015-02-14T17:08:26","slug":"listen-to-the-lawyer-gentlemen-and-dont-get-involved-in-a-bdsm-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2015\/02\/18\/listen-to-the-lawyer-gentlemen-and-dont-get-involved-in-a-bdsm-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Listen to the lawyer, gentlemen, and don&#8217;t get involved in a BDSM relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>At <em>The Federalist<\/em>, <a href=\"http:\/\/thefederalist.com\/2015\/02\/12\/men-friendly-tip-from-a-lawyer-never-engage-in-bdsm\/\" target=\"_blank\">Leslie Loftis<\/a> provides a bit of friendly (lawyerly) advice to men in the wake of the <em>Fifty Shades of Grey<\/em> bandwagon:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>The <em>Fifty Shades of Grey<\/em> hype has started its saturation run-up to the movie release this week. I expected the music video releases, the Super Bowl commercials. I did not expect the branding promotions.<\/p>\n<p>I am a lawyer. Ever since their first year of law school, lawyers see liability. And in this bondage-for-amateurs fandom that is <em>50SOG<\/em> (hat tip to Tracinski for the abbreviation) liability lurks everywhere.<\/p>\n<p>We live in an era of \u201cyes means yes\u201d and \u201calways believe the woman.\u201d Fun or not, consent or not, signed document or not \u2014 no man should ever engage in bondage sex behavior. The best of the law doesn\u2019t allow contracts for bodily harm, no matter the parties\u2019 intent. Some of the worst law throws out the constitutional standard of innocent until proven guilty. If a woman regrets and later reports consensual acts as rape and it comes down to her word against his, then he will lose.<\/p>\n<p>In this legal environment, this sort of sex play is high-risk. So I was shocked to learn that mainstream chain Target was selling <em>50SOG<\/em>-branded toys. I saw the <em>50SOG<\/em> display and my mind immediately went to the McDonalds\u2019 coffee-burn case. They are selling candles \u2026 for bedrooms \u2026 next to blindfolds. No potential problems here.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>At The Federalist, Leslie Loftis provides a bit of friendly (lawyerly) advice to men in the wake of the Fifty Shades of Grey bandwagon: The Fifty Shades of Grey hype has started its saturation run-up to the movie release this week. I expected the music video releases, the Super Bowl commercials. I did not expect [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[32,9,10,28,13],"tags":[909,529,122],"class_list":["post-30239","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-books","category-law","category-liberty","category-media","category-usa","tag-bdsm","tag-lawyers","tag-movies"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p2hpV6-7RJ","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30239","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=30239"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30239\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":30240,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30239\/revisions\/30240"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=30239"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=30239"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=30239"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}