{"id":29812,"date":"2016-06-22T01:00:29","date_gmt":"2016-06-22T05:00:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=29812"},"modified":"2016-06-12T11:40:51","modified_gmt":"2016-06-12T15:40:51","slug":"qotd-weird-nerds-are-made-not-born","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2016\/06\/22\/qotd-weird-nerds-are-made-not-born\/","title":{"rendered":"QotD: “Weird nerds are made, not born”"},"content":{"rendered":"

Of all the sound, fury, and quiet voices of reason in the storm of controversy about tech culture and what is to become of it, quiet voice of reason Zeynep Tufekci\u2019s \u201cNo, Nate, brogrammers may not be macho, but that\u2019s not all there is to it<\/a>\u201d moves the discussion farther forward than any other contribution I\u2019ve seen to date. Sadly, though, it still falls short of truly bridging the conceptual gap between nerds and \u201cweird nerds.\u201d Speaking as a lifelong member of the weird-nerd contingent, it\u2019s truly surreal that this distinction exists at all. I\u2019m slightly older than Nate Silver and about a decade younger than Paul Graham, so it wouldn\u2019t surprise me if either or both find it just as puzzling. There was no cultural concept of cool nerds, or even not-cool-but-not-that-weird nerds, when we were growing up, or even when we were entering the workforce.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s no longer true. My younger colleague @puellavulnerata<\/a> observes that for a long time, there were only weird nerds, but when our traditional pursuits (programming, electrical engineering, computer games, &c) became a route to career stability, nerdiness and its surface-level signifiers got culturally co-opted by trend-chasers who jumped on the style but never picked up on the underlying substance that differentiates weird nerds from the culture that still shuns them. That doesn\u2019t make them \u201cfake geeks,\u201d boy, girl, or otherwise\u200a\u2014\u200ayou can adopt geek interests without taking on the entire weird-nerd package\u200a\u2014\u200abut it\u2019s still an important distinction. Indeed, the notion of \u201ccool nerds\u201d serves to erase the very existence of weird nerds, to the extent that many people who aren\u2019t weird nerds themselves only seem to remember we exist when we commit some faux pas by their<\/em> standards.<\/p>\n

Even so, science, technology, and mathematics continue to attract the same awkward, isolated, and lonely personalities they have always attracted. Weird nerds are made, not born, and our society turns them out at a young age. Tufekci argues that \u201clife\u2019s not just high school,\u201d but the process of unlearning lessons ingrained from childhood takes a lot more than a cap and gown or even a $10 million VC check, especially when life continues to reinforce those lessons well into adulthood. When weird nerds watch the cool kids jockeying for social position on Twitter, we see no difference between these status games and the ones we opted out of in high school. No one\u2019s offered evidence to the contrary, so what incentive do we have to play that game? Telling us to grow up, get over it, and play a game we\u2019re certain to lose is a demand that we deny the evidence of our senses and an infantilising insult rolled into one.<\/p>\n

This phenomenon explains much of the backlash from weird nerds against \u201cbrogrammers\u201d and \u201cgeek feminists\u201d alike. (If you thought the conflict was only between those two groups, or that someone who criticises one group must necessarily be a member of the other, then you haven\u2019t been paying close enough attention.) Both groups are latecomers barging in on a cultural space that was once a respite for us, and we don\u2019t appreciate either group bringing its cultural conflicts into our space in a way that demands we choose one side or the other. That\u2019s a false dichotomy, and false dichotomies make us want to tear our hair out.<\/p>\n

Meredith Patterson, “When Nerds Collide: My intersectionality will have weirdoes or it will be bullshit”, Medium.com<\/em><\/a>, 2014-04-23.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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