{"id":28934,"date":"2015-12-05T01:00:41","date_gmt":"2015-12-05T06:00:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=28934"},"modified":"2015-11-25T07:20:11","modified_gmt":"2015-11-25T12:20:11","slug":"qotd-the-modern-dating-scene-and-texting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2015\/12\/05\/qotd-the-modern-dating-scene-and-texting\/","title":{"rendered":"QotD: The modern dating scene &#8230; and texting"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p>Last year I rejoined the ranks of the spouse-free. Things sure changed since the last time I was single.<\/p>\n<p>For starters, it is not necessary for men to ask women for revealing selfies. Those photos just start showing up on your phone after you exchange numbers. A revealing selfie in 2014 is essentially just a digital business card for your dating life.<\/p>\n<p>I have also discovered that the most-used characters on my phone keyboard are emoticons. When single people text each other, every sentence has to end with an exclamation mark or a smiley emoticon or else it looks like you lost interest since the last time you texted thirty seconds ago.<\/p>\n<p>For the most part, texting is just a means of feeling connected at a distance. The content isn&#8217;t terribly important. But the pauses between text messages mean A LOT. Single people monitor the pauses between text replies to decipher real meaning in the content. For example, if I text &#8220;I really enjoyed our time together,&#8221; the real message is contained in the timing of the message not the content. If the text is sent while one person is still driving home from a date, that means you feel a strong connection. But if I text something nice and have to wait seven hours for a reply, the seven-hour wait is the message, not the content of the reply.<\/p>\n<p>Single people in 2014 frequently break up with each other by text, but the words are only the punctuation at the end of the break up. The actual break-up happens with what is called &#8220;the taper.&#8221; The taper is when you are texting someone at a predictable rate, such as several times per day, and you gradually reduce your texting to one message every third day. That&#8217;s the taper, and it tells the other person your interest has tapered too.<\/p>\n<p>Scott Adams, <a href=\"http:\/\/dilbert.com\/blog\/entry\/the_tyranny_of_expectations\/\" target=\"_blank\">&#8220;The Tyranny of Expectations&#8221;, <em>Scott Adams Blog<\/em><\/a>, 2014-11-24.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Last year I rejoined the ranks of the spouse-free. Things sure changed since the last time I was single. For starters, it is not necessary for men to ask women for revealing selfies. Those photos just start showing up on your phone after you exchange numbers. A revealing selfie in 2014 is essentially just a [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[57,41,15],"tags":[630,547],"class_list":["post-28934","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-humour","category-quotations","category-technology","tag-sexting","tag-smartphones"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p2hpV6-7wG","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28934","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=28934"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28934\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":28935,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28934\/revisions\/28935"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=28934"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=28934"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=28934"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}