{"id":28824,"date":"2015-12-09T01:00:56","date_gmt":"2015-12-09T06:00:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=28824"},"modified":"2015-11-29T21:42:41","modified_gmt":"2015-11-30T02:42:41","slug":"qotd-masochism-and-the-modern-woman","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2015\/12\/09\/qotd-masochism-and-the-modern-woman\/","title":{"rendered":"QotD: Masochism and the modern woman"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p>\u201cIf He Doesn\u2019t Hit You, He Doesn\u2019t Love You.\u201d So runs an African proverb. Or a Russian proverb, according to other sources. Or a Bolivian proverb, according to still others. Perhaps it is all three. A similar Latin American saying, \u201cThe more you hit me, the more I love you,\u201d turns up over 100,000 hits on Google.<\/p>\n<p>It is hardly a new idea that female sexuality has a masochistic component. Indeed, this seems to be part of the folk wisdom of the world; in other words, it corresponds the observations of many persons of both sexes across many generations. Yet it is not easy to find extended discussion of it. Within the past century, most writing on the subject has been beholden to the Freudian tradition, a circumstance that does not inspire confidence. A more hopeful sign may be the sizable feminist literature aimed at refuting \u201cthe myth of female masochism.\u201d If nothing else, such literature is testimony to the enduring reality of the corresponding folk belief; no one writes polemics against things that have absolutely no basis in reality.<\/p>\n<p>It is not hard to understand why persons of both sexes are reluctant to talk about female masochism. No one wants to appear to be condoning the abuse of women. A prime component of masculinity is the instinct to protect women. In the European tradition, this has given rise to the principle that \u201ca gentlemen never strikes a lady.\u201d Pushing gallantry to the point of silliness, as usual, Thomas Fleming writes in <em>Chronicles<\/em> that \u201cthere is something unmanly about beating women, unmanly and sickening.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>But what if there is something in at least some women that responds positively to male violence?<\/p>\n<p>F. Roger Devlin, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.counter-currents.com\/2014\/09\/the-question-of-female-masochism\/\" target=\"_blank\">&#8220;The Question of Female Masochism&#8221;, <em>Counter-Currents Publishing<\/em><\/a>, 2014-09-17.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cIf He Doesn\u2019t Hit You, He Doesn\u2019t Love You.\u201d So runs an African proverb. Or a Russian proverb, according to other sources. Or a Bolivian proverb, according to still others. Perhaps it is all three. A similar Latin American saying, \u201cThe more you hit me, the more I love you,\u201d turns up over 100,000 hits [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[66,41],"tags":[139,43],"class_list":["post-28824","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-health-science","category-quotations","tag-psychology","tag-women"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p2hpV6-7uU","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28824","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=28824"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28824\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":33785,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28824\/revisions\/33785"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=28824"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=28824"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=28824"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}