{"id":28351,"date":"2015-10-15T01:00:38","date_gmt":"2015-10-15T05:00:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=28351"},"modified":"2015-10-05T07:15:38","modified_gmt":"2015-10-05T11:15:38","slug":"qotd-no-matter-what-youre-never-really-ready-for-kids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2015\/10\/15\/qotd-no-matter-what-youre-never-really-ready-for-kids\/","title":{"rendered":"QotD: No matter what, you’re never really “ready” for kids"},"content":{"rendered":"

Apparently tech companies are offering egg freezing as a benefit to their employees. There\u2019s some suspicion among women I know that this is supposed to help\/force women in technology balance family and career by delaying childbirth — it\u2019s not a good time in your late 20s and early 30s, so freeze those eggs and have kids when you\u2019re ready.<\/p>\n

What I haven\u2019t seen anyone explain is when, exactly, you\u2019ll be ready. For most people, your 40s and early 50s are your peak earning years — is that really going to be a good time to meet that special someone, or finally step back to invest some time in having kids? I don\u2019t know about the rest of you, but I\u2019m already noticing that I have a lot less energy than I used to. It\u2019s not that I can\u2019t get my work done or anything like that. But it used to be that if I had to travel for six days straight and then deliver a 2,500-word essay on the 7th, I could dial up my reserves and power through it — miserable and cranky, to be sure, but functioning. Then one day, around the time I turned 40, I dialed down for more power and there just … wasn\u2019t any. My body informed me that it was tired, and my brain would not be doing any more work today, and we were going to sleep whether I liked it or not.<\/p>\n

This is — as friends who have done it freely remark — a difficult age to be taking on your first newborn. I can\u2019t even imagine trying the same feat 10 years from now, when my joints will be even creakier and my reserves even more depleted. So I\u2019m skeptical that women who are having trouble combining work and career now will really find it much easier to do within any reasonable time frame. Is all this egg freezing actually going to expand the choices of most of the women who use it, or will it just be an expensive way to choose career over family without realizing that you\u2019re making that choice?<\/p>\n

Megan McArdle, “Will Freezing Your Eggs Help Your Career?”, Bloomberg View<\/em><\/a>, 2014-02-16.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Apparently tech companies are offering egg freezing as a benefit to their employees. There\u2019s some suspicion among women I know that this is supposed to help\/force women in technology balance family and career by delaying childbirth — it\u2019s not a good time in your late 20s and early 30s, so freeze those eggs and have […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[831,41],"tags":[374,95,43],"class_list":["post-28351","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-business","category-quotations","tag-children","tag-jobs","tag-women"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p2hpV6-7nh","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28351","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=28351"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28351\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":28352,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28351\/revisions\/28352"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=28351"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=28351"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=28351"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}