{"id":28252,"date":"2014-10-25T00:01:19","date_gmt":"2014-10-25T04:01:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=28252"},"modified":"2014-10-24T06:51:46","modified_gmt":"2014-10-24T10:51:46","slug":"qotd-hugging","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2014\/10\/25\/qotd-hugging\/","title":{"rendered":"QotD: Hugging"},"content":{"rendered":"

Part of the problem with hugging is that it has become a social convention, rather than what it once was, which was an expression of genuine emotion.<\/p>\n

There are some times when a hug is appropriate. Those times are when there’s a marriage proposal in the air or a body in the ground.<\/p>\n

Hugging is for celebration, or comforting someone who’s had a setback. Hugging is not for noting that two people have both managed to meet at Chili’s after work. Being at Chili’s is not a cause for celebration, and nor is it quite dire enough to require comforting.<\/p>\n

An even more important rule is Men don’t hug<\/em>. The only time men should hug is when male family members are observing a major life milestone, such as a major promotion, the safe return from overseas deployment, or noting a witty observation in the commentary audio track of Die Hard<\/em>.<\/p>\n

The only exception to these guidelines if a man tells another man, “Boy, I could sure use a hug.” But he won’t say that, because he’s a man, so just stop with the male-on-male hugging.<\/p>\n

To be serious, if I could: There are rules of physical distance, and there are meanings to breaches of those rules.<\/p>\n

People of course do occasionally touch each other. But those touches have important communicative purposes precisely because of the general rule that we don’t touch each other. <\/p>\n

[…]<\/p>\n

There’s something a little child-like about hugging, too. It’s an innocent gesture — it’s intended to be so.<\/p>\n

But it sort of ignores the adult-world meaning of intimate touching.<\/p>\n

So I wonder if it’s somehow connected to a growing preference for Child World rules, and an increasing rejection of Adult World rules.<\/p>\n

Ace, “Arms Are Not Made For Hugging”, Ace of Spades H.Q.<\/em><\/a>, 2014-10-10.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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