{"id":25152,"date":"2014-11-15T00:01:45","date_gmt":"2014-11-15T05:01:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=25152"},"modified":"2014-11-13T21:30:08","modified_gmt":"2014-11-14T02:30:08","slug":"qotd-women-careers-and-equality","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2014\/11\/15\/qotd-women-careers-and-equality\/","title":{"rendered":"QotD: Women, careers, and equality"},"content":{"rendered":"

So what do you do about women who freely make choices that perpetuate structural inequalities? Do you stop them from making the choices? Neither Harvard, nor Kantor, seems to have a good answer. But that is the core dilemma. Maybe women drop out because they have a deeper biological connection to their kids. Maybe they do so because they\u2019re raised to be nurturers, or maybe because they don\u2019t feel the same personal anguish that a man does when he gives up on the dream of a top-flight career. Maybe if men felt they had the option to stay home, more would. And maybe women find the role of breadwinner more stressful than men do — all the women I know who are the primary earners are neurotic about it in a way that the men I know don\u2019t seem to be. I\u2019m not talking about the fear that your partner will resent your success; these are women married to admirably feminist men. I\u2019m just talking about a near-constant fear that you will not be able to provide, and your family will end up horribly destitute. I\u2019m not saying that men don\u2019t experience that worry, but they don\u2019t seem tormented by it the way the women I talk to are.<\/p>\n

Or maybe it\u2019s that women just don\u2019t want it badly enough. In my experience, one of the reasons that women drop out of finance, and 80-hour-a-week fields more generally, is that they just don\u2019t want it as badly as the men. In their 20s, they\u2019re happy to work those kinds of hours, even at tasks they find boring. They do well at them, too. But a lot of these jobs aren\u2019t actually that rewarding as work: The investment banking associates I observed seemed to spend most of their time on basically clerical tasks, tabulating data and proofreading PowerPoints. And eventually most of the women seem to say \u201cYou know, I just care more about relationships than I do about success.\u201d There are always exceptions on both sides: women who will sacrifice anything for the career they feel called to and men who would rather be home. But on average, the women I talk to just aren\u2019t nearly as willing to sacrifice close friendships, and family relationships, for the sake of their jobs.<\/p>\n

We can say that they shouldn\u2019t have to, of course, but the sad fact is that there are trade-offs in this world. In your 20s you can finesse them — work super hard and also have a roaring social life — because you have boundless energy and no one depending on you. This is the age at which young women write furious articles and Facebook<\/em> posts denouncing anyone who suggests that women opt-out of high pressure jobs for any reason other than the rankest sexism.<\/p>\n

As you age, your body refuses to cooperate with your plan to work from 7 a.m. to 11 p.m. and then hang out with friends. Your parents start to need you more, if only to lift heavy things. And of course, there are kids. You start having to make direct trade-offs, and then suddenly you look up and you haven\u2019t seen your friends for two years and your mother is complaining that you never call. This is the age at which women write furious articles defending their decision to step back from a high-pressure job and\/or demanding subsidized childcare, generous paid maternity leave and \u201cfamily friendly policies,\u201d a vague term that ultimately seems to mean that people who leave at five to pick up the kids should be entitled to the same opportunities and compensation as people who stay until 9 to finish the client presentation. These pleas usually end (or begin) by pointing to the family-friendly utopia of Northern Europe, except that women in Europe do less well at moving into high-test management positions. Whatever the government says, someone who takes several years off work is in fact less valuable to their company than someone who doesn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Megan McArdle, “Harvard’s Gender Bender”, Bloomberg View<\/em><\/a>, 2013-09-10<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

So what do you do about women who freely make choices that perpetuate structural inequalities? Do you stop them from making the choices? Neither Harvard, nor Kantor, seems to have a good answer. But that is the core dilemma. Maybe women drop out because they have a deeper biological connection to their kids. Maybe they […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[831,25,41],"tags":[374,198,95,43],"class_list":["post-25152","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-business","category-economics","category-quotations","tag-children","tag-equalrights","tag-jobs","tag-women"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p2hpV6-6xG","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25152","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=25152"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25152\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":25153,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25152\/revisions\/25153"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=25152"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=25152"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=25152"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}