{"id":103205,"date":"2026-06-23T05:00:39","date_gmt":"2026-06-23T09:00:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=103205"},"modified":"2026-06-22T23:30:02","modified_gmt":"2026-06-23T03:30:02","slug":"modern-children-as-human-hothouse-plants-needing-constant-care-and-protection","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2026\/06\/23\/modern-children-as-human-hothouse-plants-needing-constant-care-and-protection\/","title":{"rendered":"Modern children as human hothouse plants, needing constant care and protection"},"content":{"rendered":"

At Becoming Noble<\/em>, Johann Kurtz<\/a> discusses how parents today treat their children in ways they largely never experienced, failing to provide them with enough freedom to allow them to develop personal autonomy as most western children have done for generations:<\/p>\n

Giving children the freedom they need to develop agency is now a luxury good. The number of neighborhoods in which it is normal for children to leave the house and roam all day has collapsed. This collapse has come for a variety of reasons relating to security, trust, law, norms, and infrastructure.<\/p>\n

Allowing children the privilege of freedom depends on conditions that most families no longer have access to: safe streets — yes — but also neighbors who are known and trusted, and a settled local agreement about what children are and what they are for. These conditions have not vanished, but they have concentrated, and are now a guarded secret, found only in private, privileged, and intentional communities.<\/p>\n

This is a curious inversion of an older pattern. For most of history the peasant’s son had the run of the village while the noble’s son was kept under tutors. Now it is the wealthy child who is sent out to enjoy the freedom and adventure of camps and screenless schools, while working and underclass children are kept indoors and screened up.<\/p>\n

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Photo from Becoming Noble<\/em><\/p><\/div>\n

It is worth being clear about the factors which underlie this transition. Otherwise, parents seeking the nostalgic “free roaming” experience are directed to explanations which are emphasized because they are unproblematic and suggest that a broad solution is available if we just move policy in a sensible direction. This includes discussions of “walkable development” and a rejection of “helicopter parenting”.<\/p>\n

This polite framing avoids the reality that the prudent decisions available to parents are mostly made for them by the place they can afford to live, the people they live among, and how radical they are willing to be.<\/p>\n

Children develop “agency” — the self-belief that they can independently and effectively manipulate and shape the world in creative ways — through constant experimentation and positive reinforcement.<\/p>\n

The “independent” aspect of this formula involves developing internal psychological permission to break from prosaic norms and routines. Developing this is helped by play outside the control of authorities and interacting with the real world in settings unmediated by parents.<\/p>\n

The closed systems that now fill children’s hours provide some feeling of agency (open world games, sprawling social media platforms, private chat rooms) without its substance. A child scrolling or playing through the programmatic logic of games is making choices, but they are only the choices that limited systems can accommodate.<\/p>\n

Closed-system childhoods teach that there are inviolable hidden structures underneath reality and that the smoothest and most rewarding experiences are to be found when you conform with them. Experiences from boxes teach you to think within boxes. And the vice available online can be as controlling as any parent.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

A few years ago, I linked to an article that graphically illustrated how the generations of an English family near Sheffield had experienced continuously diminished “range” for the children to explore<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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Graphic showing the diminishing “free ranges” of each generation of an English family.<\/p><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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