{"id":102597,"date":"2026-05-21T03:00:08","date_gmt":"2026-05-21T07:00:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/?p=102597"},"modified":"2026-05-20T12:15:42","modified_gmt":"2026-05-20T16:15:42","slug":"explaining-why-more-men-are-opting-out","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quotulatiousness.ca\/blog\/2026\/05\/21\/explaining-why-more-men-are-opting-out\/","title":{"rendered":"Explaining why more men are “opting out”"},"content":{"rendered":"

On Substack, Bettina Arndt<\/a> shows some of the reasons why men are less and less willing to commit — not just to relationships, but to huge swathes of what we used to call “adult life”:<\/p>\n

The warning signs have been there for decades. Back in 1983, American author Barbara Ehrenreich wrote a powerful book \u2014 The Hearts of Men: American Dreams and the Flight from Commitment<\/em> \u2014 arguing that a male revolt was underway. Since the 1950s, she suggested, men had begun rebelling against the breadwinner ethic — inspired by Playboy<\/em> culture, the counterculture, and a desire for personal freedom. They were rejecting the cultural ideology that had shamed them into tying the knot and becoming a good provider, lest they be seen as immature, irresponsible, and less than a real man.<\/p>\n

Ehrenreich understood that marriage was the mechanism by which society harnessed male productivity. Remove the shame, and the yoke comes off.<\/p>\n

Forty years on, the yoke has disappeared. In April 2026, the American male labour force participation rate hit its lowest level<\/a> since records began in the 1940s, according to the US Bureau of Labor Statistics. One in three American men \u2014 roughly 33% \u2014 were not working or actively looking for work. The overall male participation rate for men aged 16 and over stood at just 67%, down from 73.5% two decades ago and from 87% in the postwar years when Ehrenreich’s story begins.<\/p>\n

The trend is not confined to America. Australian men’s workforce participation has fallen from around 79% in 1978<\/a> to approximately 71% today (see below), while similar declines \u2014 though less dramatic than in the United States \u2014 have occurred in the UK and Canada.<\/p>\n

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If you want to understand why men are voting with their feet, you need to look not just at what marriage now costs them \u2014 and the costs are severe \u2014 but at what it delivers. Increasingly, what it delivers is a pretty dud deal.<\/p>\n

The modern woman: a prospectus.<\/strong><\/p>\n